Seth’s Ultimate Guide to Anal Intercourse for Women

This tutorial is for all of you who kept asking about anal intercourse. I finally got busy
and put something together. I am hoping this will help you out on your sexual journey and
that the information I provide for you here will prove useful. Those of you who have been
here before will notice that this article doesn’t look the same as it once did. I was on a roll
and decided that it needed some revamping. So here we are again. I have also received
suggestions and ideas from my visitors that I have tried to include here as well so that I
might provide you with the best information possible.
I’m sure that you’ve all heard the jokes that end something like this "If sex is a pain in
the ass then you’re doing it wrong". Believe it or not it does have some bearing on this
tutorial. Anal intercourse should not be painful.
Lack of preparation is probably the single biggest turn-off about anal intercourse. A
typical scenario goes something like so. The couple decide to attempt anal intercourse but
are not really fully prepared for it, he tries to push into her anus without much warning, she
screams in shock and agony and ends up throwing herself away from the offending member
and hits her head on the headboard. That’s the end of anal sex in their relationship.
With the proper preparations anal intercourse can not only be as safe as any other kind
of sex, but at least as enjoyable if not more so than just regular intercourse. The anus can
be a very erogenous zone and it contains more nerve endings than any other part of the
body except for the clitoris. That said, I will also throw in my usual, this doesn’t necessarily
work for everyone comment. Some will find it enjoyable and others won’t.
There are a lot of people who get hung up on the "you’re not sticking that thing in there"
mentality. We have been so thoroughly conditioned to believe that touching our anus is bad
never mind actually playing with it on purpose. I must confess that five years ago you would
not have been able to convince me that I would ever have anal intercourse much less like it.
And I do have to admit now that I do thoroughly enjoy it and it is a regular part of my sex
life.
There is no necessary medical reason for the perceived taboo against anal intercourse.
If we are honest with ourselves the idea of doing something we’re not supposed to is
exciting. If you practice good hygiene there isn’t anything repulsive at all about it. It is a
good idea to make sure that you’ve gone to the washroom prior to commencing your anal play.
If you desire you can use an enema if you so desire, but it isn’t necessary. If you’re really
worried, hop in the shower together and lather each other up and then you can be assured
that everything is as clean as possible.
If you haven’t been with your partner for a very long time, then you should certainly be
using a condom for anal intercourse. Many couples will use a condom for anal intercourse
anyway. It’s not a good idea to go from anal sex to vaginal sex without first cleaning
yourself very thoroughly. The bacteria that live in your rectum can really create havoc if
they take up residence in the vaginal canal.

Self Exploration
Now that you are a little more comfortable with the fact that it’s ok to be interested in
anal sex you can start exploring your ass. If you’ve never had any experience with anyone
playing with your ass you need to explore a bit on your own and see how it feels and get
comfortable with the idea. In order to enjoy anal intercourse you have to be able to
exercise control over your mind. If you are tense then your asshole is going to be closed
tighter than a drum and nothing will be able to penetrate it. It is incredible just how big a
part your mind plays in anal intercourse. I have experienced anal intercourse on numerous
occasions and have enjoyed it thoroughly, however I have found that the times I’ve enjoyed
it the most have been those times where I’ve been the one to initiate it. It seems to be so
easy then, where on other occasions it is a bit more of struggle to get into the right frame
of mind and relax.
The best place to start your explorations would be in the bathtub. Draw yourself a nice
warm bath and climb in. Alternatives would be the shower or even just lying down on your
bed. Take your fingers and begin running them over the insides of your thighs and over your
pussy. As you become comfortable, draw your legs up and run your fingers down the crack
that run from your pussy to your anus. See how it feels when you lightly touch your anus
with your finger. Try pushing several of your fingers down against your anus. If it feels
pleasurable, you might want to try masturbating while your fingers are pushing down on your
anus.
If you find that this produces pleasurable feelings for you or you think that it might
keep up the exploration. Take it nice and slow, there isn’t any big hurry. The rectum is
similar to an elastic pipe with a set of muscular rings at the end, the anus. The anus acts as
a plug, to stop things from going out or letting them in. It tightens and loosens like purse
strings on a bag and is fairly strong. The rectum can easily accommodate a large penis. Think
about it, if the rectum can handle all your excrement then the smaller things like penises
and fingers are really not a problem. The rectum is a sturdy flexible organ and isn’t going to
be hurt by fingers or a penis or other similar objects unless there is intent to hurt. Before
inserting a finger into your anus make sure that your fingernails are cut short and don’t
have any sharp edges as they could easily scratch or tear the tissue inside the rectum and
that won’t be a fun feeling at all.

Exploring Your Ass
After some preliminary touching you will find that you want to move on and actually
insert a finger into your anus. At this point it is a good idea to have some good lubricant on
hand. I personally would recommend a lubricant that is water soluble. I have been advised by
some of my readers that Vaseline is also an acceptable lubricant as the rectum is a self-
cleaning organism, unlike the vagina.
Make yourself comfortable on your bed or whatever spot you’ve chosen for your
exploration and bend your legs slightly bringing your feet closer to your ass. Using one hand
get into a comfortable rhythm of masturbation and take a finger of the other hand, usually the
index or the middle finger works best, and apply the lubricant of your choice to it.
Gently start to push the tip of your finger into your anus. You will feel it give way and your
finger will go in a little ways. To insert the finger further you need to keep pushing gently
and try to relax your anus. This will enable you to get past the thick muscle and into the
rectum. This may feel a bit uncomfortable at first, and there may be a little bit of a burning
sensation or irritation. This is a normal response, just try to relax your ass completely and
continue the masturbation with your other hand. If you want to, bring yourself to climax
with your finger still in your rectum and see how it feels. If this feels good to you, then by
all means continue with your exploration. If it doesn’t feel good then withdraw the finger
and try again another time. Take all the time you need to become comfortable with
yourself.
If you have enjoyed yourself so far, then you might want to try wiggling your finger
around inside your rectum and see what it feels like. The inside of the rectum is very soft
and comfy. I find it’s a rather interesting sensation. Try moving your finger around in
different directions and see what different movements feel like. If you have your fingers
from your other hand inside your pussy you can push them towards each other and feel
them pushing on walls that separate them. Eventually you will want to stretch the rectum a
bit more so that you can prepare for your partner’s cock at a later point.
One way to do this is to try sliding another finger into your rectum to join the first one
and to try spreading the fingers as far apart as you can. Only do what feels comfortable for
you. Don’t feel that you have to accomplish everything in the same day. You may do better if
you explore a bit at a time over several days. Practice tensing and relaxing your anus around
your fingers.

More than fingers
Now that you are comfortable with fingers, it’s time to move on to something a bit more
realistic. A good dildo is excellent to practice with. You can obtain one at a love shop or
order from many places on the internet. I would recommend one made of plastic rather than
latex. Latex dildos are difficult to clean and have soft pores that bacteria could be
harboured in. Don’t use anything with sharp edges or that can easily break.
On your own try inserting the dildo into your ass gradually, making sure that it is well
lubricated. Try pushing it in and out of your anus while you masturbate yourself with the
other hand. I have found that if I’m already excited from masturbating it is much simpler to
push the dildo further into my anus.
From this point you can move on and involve your partner in the exploration process. Make
sure that he is aware that you are setting the pace and not to rush the whole process. He
will be greatly rewarded by the results of patience when he finally gets to experience your
ass, especially if this will be a first for you

Postillioning

There are a couple of ways to get your partner involved in the exploration of your ass.
They are postillioning and analingus.
Postillioning is the insertion of fingers into the anus and may involve massaging it and the
rectum. At its most extreme you can end up with anal fisting, but that’s a whole topic on its
own.
The insertion of your partner’s fingers into your anus is a great lead up to the ultimate
of anal sex or it can even be a pleasant enhancement to regular intercourse. This allows your
partner to become familiar with how you may react during anal sex. It gives him a chance to
explore your body with you.
Normally, I find that the index or middle fingers work the best, being a little longer
than the others and stronger as well. Don’t forget the lube! Run your fingers over the anal
opening, kneading and pressing against it. You can use a circular motion if you like. It’s just
like giving a massage, you are helping the area around the anus to relax. Make the insertion
by pressing gently and firmly inwards, wiggling the tip of your finger as necessary. At this
point if your partner is comfortable and relaxed the finger should slide in fairly easily. On
the other hand, if the ass is tense then your finger will not make any headway at all. You and
your partner will have to decide at this point whether or not to continue or to perhaps leave
it and come back to it another time.
Once your finger is past the anal opening you will feel the thick, strong, muscular ring
which is the anus and beyond it, the soft sides of the rectum. You will need to keep at least
your fingertip beyond the anus or the contraction of the muscle could just force the finger
right out. When your finger is inside explore a bit, pushing the finger as far in as it will go,
flicking back and forth.
A great way to enhance this exploration would be to suck on your partner’s clit or stick
your other fingers in her pussy. I have found that this combination makes for some pretty
powerful orgasms. There is nothing better than having his mouth wrapped around my clit and
fingers wiggling in my ass. It’s a great feeling.
Analingus
Now for the other way to explore the rear end. This method is typically called rimming
or can also be known as "analingus". It involves kissing, licking and sucking the anus. A lot of
people have a problem with this concept since we’ve been taught for so long that we’re not
supposed to play with our asses, that they are dirty and bad. There is the possibility of
getting VD or hepatitis from an infected person but the primary fears of rimming are mainly
to do with smell, taste and personal preference. If these things are a concern to you, then
perhaps the ideal time for this sort of exploration would be right after getting out of the
shower. You can also buy dams, which are made from latex, very similar to the dams they
use in the dental offices, only a lot thinner. You would apply this to the area, so that you
would not be coming in direct contact with the person’s ass but they would still get all the
great sensations.

Analingus works so well because the anus opening is so incredibly sensitive and the lips
and tongue are warm and expressive. It’s easy to do and can be done in any positions where
the buttocks can be spread far enough apart to admit the tongue. Run your tongue over the
anus, licking it in soft wet strokes or circle it, running your tongue around the edge of it
slowly and delicately. You can flick the tip of your tongue rapidly over the opening or try
inserting your tongue as far as it will go pushing and stroking it back and forth. Try brushing
your lips over the spot or sucking hard on the anus. If you are being rimmed try to push
down the anus and relax the anus as if you were shitting, it will expand a little outward
giving your partner more area to caress or nibble at. Use your imagination and experiment.
Just remember to pay attention to your partner’s reactions to your different techniques.
First Time Position
Now we can get into the really fun stuff... positions, positions, positions. Your positions
should only be limited by your physical ability to get in and out of them and by what feels
comfortable. Some positions will work wonderfully for some and not for others. It’s up to
you to determine which ones work best. I will give you a few suggestions to start with.
The first one and probably the most important one in my mind is with the woman on top
facing toward the man. I say this because if it’s your first time experiencing anal sex, this
position will allow you to have control of the insertion of his penis into your ass. This was
what I used for my first anal experience and I felt comfortable because I had the control
over how far his penis was going or not going to penetrate me. I could stop when I felt I
needed time to adjust to the sensation and then continue when I felt ready to. This is still
my all time favorite position.
Ladies, all you need to do is to straddle your partner facing toward him. Make sure that
you've got lots of lubricant applied to his penis and to your ass. You want to be able to have
his penis slide in smoothly. Grasp his penis firmly and position the head at the opening of
your anus. Hold it in place while you gently push your ass down against it. It will move fairly
smoothly for the first little bit and then you are going to encounter some resistance, this is
where the muscular ring is. To get past this point, you really need to relax and push down
gently until you feel it pop past the muscle. Now, you might want to take a minute here to
absorb how it feels so far. You may feel like you’re going to shit yourself. This is a normal
feeling and you don’t actually shit yourself.
One of my readers had suggested that breathing plays a very big role in successful anal
intercourse. It has been their experience that a woman will have a much easier time of it if
she controls her breathing. If the woman takes a deep breath and exhales slowly during the
initial penetration it makes the act more pleasurable for both partners.
Once you’ve adjusted, try pressing down further on his penis, taking more inside your
ass. This is a good time for your partner to play with your breasts, stroke and play with your
pussy or whatever else works for turning you on. The more sexually excited you are the less
attention you are going to pay to any discomfort you might feel. Then you can start moving
up and down on his penis, letting it slide in and out of your ass. You are in complete control
and can wiggle side to side, move up and down as slow or as fast as you’d like. You can also
control the depth and force of penetration.
When you’re comfortable with this, you may allow your partner to become more of a
participant instead of having him remain passive. It’s all up to you and ladies I don’t think
that he’s going to argue too much, especially if this is something that he’s been wanting to
do and is finally getting the opportunity.

First Time Position
Now we can get into the really fun stuff... positions, positions, positions. Your positions
should only be limited by your physical ability to get in and out of them and by what feels
comfortable. Some positions will work wonderfully for some and not for others. It’s up to
you to determine which ones work best. I will give you a few suggestions to start with.
The first one and probably the most important one in my mind is with the woman on top
facing toward the man. I say this because if it’s your first time experiencing anal sex, this
position will allow you to have control of the insertion of his penis into your ass. This was
what I used for my first anal experience and I felt comfortable because I had the control
over how far his penis was going or not going to penetrate me. I could stop when I felt I
needed time to adjust to the sensation and then continue when I felt ready to. This is still
my all time favourite position.
Ladies, all you need to do is to straddle your partner facing toward him. Make sure that
you've got lots of lubricant applied to his penis and to your ass. You want to be able to have
his penis slide in smoothly. Grasp his penis firmly and position the head at the opening of
your anus. Hold it in place while you gently push your ass down against it. It will move fairly
smoothly for the first little bit and then you are going to encounter some resistance, this is
where the muscular ring is. To get past this point, you really need to relax and push down
gently until you feel it pop past the muscle. Now, you might want to take a minute here to
absorb how it feels so far. You may feel like you’re going to shit yourself. This is a normal
feeling and you don’t actually shit yourself.
One of my readers had suggested that breathing plays a very big role in successful anal
intercourse. It has been their experience that a woman will have a much easier time of it if
she controls her breathing. If the woman takes a deep breath and exhales slowly during the
initial penetration it makes the act more pleasurable for both partners.
Once you’ve adjusted, try pressing down further on his penis, taking more inside your
ass. This is a good time for your partner to play with your breasts, stroke and play with your
pussy or whatever else works for turning you on. The more sexually excited you are the less
attention you are going to pay to any discomfort you might feel. Then you can start moving
up and down on his penis, letting it slide in and out of your ass. You are in complete control
and can wiggle side to side, move up and down as slow or as fast as you’d like. You can also
control the depth and force of penetration.

When you’re comfortable with this, you may allow your partner to become more of a
participant instead of having him remain passive. It’s all up to you and ladies I don’t think
that he’s going to argue too much, especially if this is something that he’s been wanting to
do and is finally getting the opportunity.

Other Positions
Here are some other positions that you can try out to see what you like best.
Doggie Style:
This position that works so well for regular vaginal intercourse is also a good choice for anal
intercourse as well. Kneel on your knees and elbows, remembering to relax your ass. Your
partner kneels directly behind your ass, facing towards you. He will then bend forward
guiding his penis to your anus opening and gently pushes it inside. Entry is made easier if you
try to draw his penis into your ass as he is pushing. Your partner can then move his penis
around inside your ass by thrusting his hips forward and back, while you either remain still
or can move your hips from side to side. This position allows for fairly easy and deep penetration.
Full Front:
In this position the woman lies on her back and pulls her knees up as close to her chest as
she can manage and then rests her feet on her partner’s shoulders. The man pushes down on
her face to face. If required a pillow can be inserted under the woman’s pelvis to raise it
higher up. The man can also push the woman’s feet up over her head. This position allows for
easy and deep penetration.
Standing:
In this position both partners are standing facing the same direction. The woman can then
bend over at the waist (it is a good idea to use a wall or chair or something for support).
This can also be accomplished from a kneeling position at the edge of the bed. Depending on
the height difference some adjustments may need to be made. This position is a convenient
one for outdoor use and allows easy penetration and full movement provided there is
something solid to hang on to.
Flat on stomach:
In this position, have the woman lay flat on her stomach (use a pillow to raise the hips if
needed). This allows the woman to relax more fully and her hands are free to move wherever
they like. Since the man will lie on top of the woman he can also be more relaxed and have
freer hand movements. The penetration in this position is not as easily accomplished and
thrusting is difficult. The woman is also fairly restricted in her movement.
Side by Side:
From the position above, the partners can fairly easily roll over onto their sides, both facing
the same way, drawing one leg up. This position allows for greater relaxation of the bodies
and hands are free to explore and caress. Entry is easy and penetration is fairly deep for
this position. Movement can be rather limited, although vigorous thrusting is possible once
you get used to the posture of the position.
Side by Side – facing together:
This is another variation to the two previous positions. In this particular position, the
partners lie on their sides facing one another. The man must extend his pelvis in between
the woman’s bent legs. This position allows deep entry and the hands are free for
exploration. This position is also a little more intimate and allows for kissing and eye contact
to take happen. Movement is fairly easy once insertion is made.
That's it for this tutorial. If you have any comments or suggestions please feel free to send
me an email. If you'd like to share your first time experience with others let me know and
we will start a section for them. I hope that this tutorial has made sense to you and
provided you with some useful information.